A boudoir session can be a bit intimidating specially if you haven’t had one in the past, don’t know much about it, and are uninformed, but it can be lots of fun and so empowering if you prepare and know what to do to feel you best and stay confident during your engagement session. And that is exactly what I am going to go over today, my Top Tips to Feel your Best and Stay Confident During your Boudoir Session.
1. Make sure you are comfortable with your photographer.
It’s so important that you meet your photographer or talk to them on the phone before booking them and before your session. This will let you know if you are the right fit for each other. They should let you know what to expect, and what is their approach to boudoir photography. Make sure they answer all your questions, and that you feel comfortable with their answers. Also, make sure to ask them if there will be any other person present at your session like an associate photographer or a make up/hair artist. I think boudoir sessions are very personal, so I usually don’t have an associate with me unless they are female and my client knows about it ahead of time. Sometimes my clients add hair and make up to their session, so the H&M artist will be there to provide that service, but usually leaves right before it starts. Ask to see a full boudoir photo gallery and make sure you like the photographer’s style. I usually shoot for a more natural effortless feel as I think those type of photos look the best and stand the test of time. Ask if they help direct you or if they have a more “hands off” approach, and then decide what makes you feel more comfortable.
2. Choose comfortable lingerie and bring options.
Choosing lingerie that you feel comfortable in is so important. Focus not only on style, but on what makes you feel your best. If you are more conservative, it is completely ok to be more covered up and still look beautiful and sexy. Choose lingerie styles that fit your personal style; there are pieces out there for every woman from more conservative to more risqué, and they can all look very flattering and make you feel beautiful. Remember boudoir photography is more about evoking a feeling than “baring” it all! I suggest trying every piece ahead of time and walking/sitting with them on to make sure everything stays in place and you look the way you want to. Bring several outfit options in case something is not working out, you can change. If you are looking for lingerie, Adore Me is one of my favorite lingerie online stores, and their selection and style is amazing!
3. Have your hair and make up professionally done.
I suggest you get your hair and makeup professionally done. This way you get to relax and get pampered before your session instead of having to worry about doing it yourself, time, plus getting ready. Make sure you let your make up artist know about any blemishes and marks, both in your face or body, that you might be self conscious about. I suggest a more natural polished look for hair and make up to make sure everything looks effortless, but wearing a bit more make up than usual is a good idea. Make sure you let your hair stylist know any preferences ahead of time so that they can come up with a look that you will love. During the session, make sure your photographer allows for hair and make up touch ups. I always allow time for changes of clothes and to touch up hair and make up, and I am always available to help touch up if needed (it helps I used to be a modeling instructor back in the day, and have plenty of backstage experience! ;)).
4. Have music playing in the background.
Music always helps my boudoir clients relax. Ask if they will have a speaker on hand or if you can bring one to play your music. As for myself, I always have speaker on hand, and will let my clients hook up their phone to it, or if they prefer I can play music from my “boudoir” playlist. If you are a wine or bubbly lover, ask if you can bring a bottle of wine or champagne to sip during your session; this can help calm down your nerves.
5. Make sure to communicate any concerns to your photographer during your session.
If something is bothering you or if there is a side or feature of your body that you rather not put emphasis on, make sure to let your photographer know right away. If they know what’s going on, they will try to fix it, and will try to make sure you feel comfortable. Communication and trust between your photographer is key to a great boudoir session. As a boudoir photographer, I rather have “too much” information than not, because this helps me conduct and direct the session better and ensure we are on the same page.
6. Have fun and forget about everything!
This is the one tip that might sound silly, yet is the most important! Your hair, make up, and wardrobe are all on point, the only thing left to do is to let go, and let your photographer do their work. During your session really just let go and focus on the reason why you are doing this in the first place. Embrace yourself just the way you are, and let go of any fears and insecurities. If you are gifting the photos to your boyfriend, fiancé, or husband, believe me they will love the photos and will so appreciate that you are doing this for them.
Believe me, if you follow these tips, and choose a photographer that empowers you and that you can trust, you will absolutely love your photos and will cherish them for years to come.
I would love to hear what you think in the comments below, please feel free to share your thoughts and experiences! If you would like to see some of my past boudoir sessions, click here!